Before we get into Amber’s clique, I need to explain a bit where my mind was at at the time.
After having my leadership doubted and receiving very little support, I pulled the guild together and did well simply by keeping my head down and working day and night. Though others might disparage me and the guild, I ignored them and focused on what the team needed. At the same time, in the US, the 2016 presidential campaign was in full swing, and I obsessively followed, and strongly related to, the situation. In that election, I saw two very different types of people: one who was focused on what she believed the country needed, on hard work and perseverance, and on ‘going high when others go low’; the other was focused on his own image and feelings, would bluster and not bother to understand policy details, and spent much of his time going low by attacking people right and left.
I did not relate so strongly because of any policy agreements with liberals or conservatives, but because of what the two very different personalities came to represent to me: one, having the traits I aspired to; the other, having the traits displayed by those who caused us trouble. I was trying my best to embody leadership qualities such as going high when others go low, staying positive, pushing forward for the good of those I lead, and always acting for the good of the guild instead of for my own gratification. Those who were sabotaging my guild by making snarky or demeaning comments about us were the antithesis of that: willing to go on the attack and denigrate others without ever trying to help or understand us, all in order to feel good about themselves. I cannot count the number of times I felt unreasonably attacked or belittled, then told myself not to stoop to their level and join the mudslinging or the undermining, to instead rise above that and just focus on what was good for Syzygy. At the time, I took comfort in the example set by the presidential candidate who responded to mud-slinging by ignoring it and focusing on policy and what the US needed. No matter what sorts of undermining or demeaning behavior I saw in others in the guild, I never responded in kind. With what I saw in the presidential campaign, I, at the time, felt supported in my continued decision to behave maturely, positively, and always with the guild’s best interests at heart. I thought people would see the difference between my and the mudslingers’ behaviors and come to see that I was worth supporting. This difference would play out in a stark manner this week, during the beginning of the implosion of Amber’s clique.
Now, it’s time to talk a bit in-depth about parts of Amber’s clique. Continue reading